Judging (The DON’T Judge Challenge)

There’s something particularly unsettling about the recent #Don’tJudgeChallenge that’s doing the rounds…a trend which purports to be powered by a positive message, but misses the mark in a rather obvious and cruelly ironic way…

Here is the so called ‘best of’ just in case you don’t know what I’m on about (TOP TIP: It’s really unnecessary to watch the whole thing):

So yeah…where to begin? Well how about the start? …this whole bizarre viral trend was born from an arguable desire to encourage others “not to judge a book by it’s cover”...and I think in essence that’s a great thing! But what I can’t quite get my head around is the fact that at its core it’s just people pretending to look comically ugly…to only then reveal that; OH NO NEVER MIND, they are actually rather good looking (and also completely in love with themselves). 

Call me a fuddy-duddy or whatever, but perhaps a true #Don’tJudgeChallenge would center on something other than, errrrrm, judging people based on their looks? Perhaps we could see something amazing that a person has done…whether that be a life-saving invention, a touching work of literature, a heart-warming musical performance, or even helping an old lady across the street – just anything that betters others lives in some way or makes the world a better place to be; then we could see what these people look like…and we’d witness that they are of all colours and creeds, all backgrounds and religions, all shapes and sizes…and appearance would be an unnecessary feature in an otherwise touching narrative.

But that’s not what this trend is about…and you know what it actually feels too glaringly obvious to even point out! I mean, how does this even make sense? These people are actively and obnoxiously judging people based on their looks – highlighting things that they deem to be unattractive or undesirable; spots, moles, scars, glasses, mono brows…the list goes on – and then pulling back to marvel at their own beauty as they rub their face, along with their overbearingly large ego.

How does watching these videos feel for people who have any of these so-called ‘ugly’ afflictions? Probably not great I’d imagine. Or maybe I’m wrong – maybe a teenage girl with cystic acne is watching these videos of people wiping off drawn on spots and suddenly feels fantastic…or maybe she feels put down, demoralized, and even more self-conscious by the self-rightgeous and hurtful movement that is the #Don’tJudgeChallenge. 

But hey, maybe I’m wrong…these are just my thoughts, please don’t judge.

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28 thoughts on “Judging (The DON’T Judge Challenge)

  1. This is popular and trending? I guess it is too difficult to ask people to think critically (why?) and analytically (how?) about human perception. Human perception has its limits.

    If people really want to do something meaningful with this campaign keep it simple. Have no opinions and do research. Reduce all your opinions to what you can confirm and avoid standards of beauty, ethics and morals as much as possible. Think for yourself.

    “Don’t judge challege”? I could not care less…

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  2. You’re not wrong, John. This crap…so unworthy of our time and attention. It must be devastating to those who can’t just wash off that “ugliness”. sigh…we may not be completely doomed…but we are in a lot of trouble. ☺

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  3. Holy wowie.
    Okay I had never heard of this current, um, thing that’s trending now. Nor did I watch the video, as simply seeing the first image was enough to see the ridiculousness of it.
    Um, hello, moles happen. They are the rainbow of color manifest in a single body. Amazing.
    And eyebrows that are strong, why not? Why do beauty standards always seem so narrow, despite the fact that those standards continue to shift and change. Acne happens. Scars tell stories.
    What is up with people…?
    My goodness.

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  4. I really liked reading this post. You are right.
    This challenge, instead of promoting the respect towards those who are different and cellebrating difference, promotes the point of view in which people without acne, for instance, are more beautiful.

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  5. My sentiments exactly! In caricaturing and mimicking things which are conventionally ugly and then revealing, “Oh, I’m not actually ugly because I don’t have those things” only serves to further emphasize that those are unattractive qualities to have. It is the exact opposite of the point, which is even if you do have these so-called unattractive features, you’re still beautiful.

    A much, much better way for this to have been done so everyone could participate (your suggestion is phenomenal, but not everyone has a remarkable talent or has done anything amazing or to better the world at their current point in life), would have been for these conventionally attractive women to then wash off their makeup to reveal their flaws, which gives those who may feel down on themselves about their acne or scars the message, “Hey. That pretty girl you envy from Instagram? She has acne scars, just like you. You’re not any different from her. You’re not ugly. You’re normal.”

    Unrelated and completely judgmental: My gaw, those two bro-dudes in the second clip… they have such punchable faces. I just want to reach through the screen and yell at them, “Put your tongue back in your mouth! It’s not cute when Miley does it, it sure as hell ain’t cute on you!” Kids these days.

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  6. Agree 100%, news to me that it was even a thing actually! But what do we expect? With so many movies about the ugly-but-likeable-nerd-turned-babe scenario, it’s no wonder why this type of video now exists. I can get behind the message though, honestly (and I may get raked over the coals for this one…), most people throw out a judgment of sorts daily. Whether it’s looks, actions, movies, etc., there will always be a level of judgment. Just PLEASE let’s get rid of terrible videos like this one, which are more degrading than helpful.

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  7. Well, John. At the root of it it’s all vapid vanity, which is not problem if it can touch others in a positive, life-enhancing way. But alas- It’s tantamount to watching a spectacle of a giant zit exploding in full view. If I had acne, and were a good sport, I still couldn’t see the humor in it.

    You need not wrack your wrack your brains nor question your sanity. The plain facts: unlike you, they haven’t got a life, sensitivity and compassion, a gift for writing and a sense of humor (that can be downright slapstick, or convey an impactive relevant message to the day.)

    I wonder what it would be like when and if they look back at those videos 10 years from now.

    (I’m going to read Joelle’s book “Auto Run” WHILE WAITING FOR YOUR NEXT BOOK to come out.)

    You still with the kids? Never mind- I’ll catch up! 🙂

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  8. Well, John. At the root of it it’s all vapid vanity, which is not problem if it can touch others in a positive, life-enhancing way. But alas- It’s tantamount to watching a spectacle of a giant zit exploding in full view. If I had acne, and were a good sport, I still couldn’t see the humor in it.

    You need not wrack your wrack your brains nor question your sanity. The plain facts: unlike you, they haven’t got a life, sensitivity and compassion, a gift for writing and a sense of humor (which could be downright slapstick, or convey an impactive relevant message to the day.)

    I wonder what it would be like when and if they look back at those videos 10 years from now.

    (I’m going to read Joelle’s book “Auto Run” WHILE WAITING FOR YOUR NEXT BOOK to come out.)

    You still with the kids? Never mind- I’ll catch up! 🙂

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    • Yes Melinda, and if they were trying to make a joke then I would understand (although I’d think it was tasteless in my opinion) but instead they frame it as helpful in some way…don’t get it at all.

      You’re lovely as always, happy reading! And yeah still with the kiddies bless their hearts!

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  9. I am not sure these people have the capability to think past there own egos…I watched half the video, my favorite was the one where the gal was stuffing fries in her mouth, then her hand went up and then it came back with a burger she was wolfing down….that was real…the others need to obviously get a life beyond the mirror…

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  10. I’ve been disgusted to see these videos popping up all over the internet. It should be renamed the Narcissism Challenge instead because that’s all I’ve seen. Surely these people will realize in a couple of years that looks won’t get you many places in life, but a heart of gold and knowledge most certainly will.

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  11. Looks fade. I feel sorry for these kids who are hanging all their self esteem on something that they can’t keep forever. In 20-30 years (if they don’t evolve) they will be sad neurotic people pouring all their time and money into diets, creams and surgeons in a desperate bid to keep their looks from heading south…further preventing them from working on their inner beauty. In fact, I can easily imagine them becoming more ugly inside as they do things to help boost their dying image of themselves (eg. have an affair to prove they can still attract others.) Sad world we live in.

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  12. I’d never heard of this until just now, but I think you are absolutely right! It’s kind of an oxymoron: don’t judge because that’s not who they are… But this is, so you can judge them on this!” The idea is nice… Just not well-thought out. Great post!
    Emma

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